I just need to say a big THANKS to everyone who sent me a note, an email or posted a comment on my blog yesterday. It is nice to know that Kiya has people rooting for her even if she has only met one of you in person and probably doesn't even remember that even though we are secretly arranging a marriage between Sammy and Kiya :). I realized that I too have only met a couple of you in real life.
Yet I know that when I need support or prayers or a pick me up you are all out there in blog land. How I would have survived this whole adoption thing without blog land is beyond me.
I am anxiously awaiting the phone to ring with her test results, even though I know it may not happen today. I got a few questions yesterday that were quite personal, as in did we ask for a child with a medical condition and things along those lines.
First off, Kiya in my mind doesn't have a medical condition. She may at some point but she doesn't right now to my knowledge. Secondly, we did fill out a form with medical conditions that we were okay with or would consider at time of referral. This medical episode if you will was not on any checklist. Yes it is a checklist and hands down the worst piece of paperwork I have ever had to talk about or fill out. It is just weird to say yes to this or no to that or maybe. We wouldn't have those options for a birth child.
In the end it wouldn't have mattered had we known this info at referral or not. She was from day one our little girl. We weren't prepared for this episode but we are more than equipped to handle it. International adoption comes with unknowns and risks. We knew that. We are okay with that.
Someone even asked me if we had known this info at referral would we still have accepted. YES! Without a doubt 100%. Worst case scenario, it is a liveable and maybe some day treatable illness. She can lead a totally "normal" (I hate that word) life. Sure it would require specialists, and blood tests and maybe medicine but it is manageable.
We are holding out hope that she falls in line with the statistics that say her chances of actually getting Hep C are slim but if not it is what it is. What really stinks is that we can't reach out to her birth mom. Since it is likely that is how she was exposed to it to begin with. We worry about Zinash and her health. We are fortunate to have specialists, medical care and even medicine if need be. She may not and likely doesn't. Untreated this could be a fatal condition. That breaks my heart.
Back to waiting for the phone to ring...Thanks again everyone for the support and if you need anything at all I am in blog land for you as well. I know how important the support is when the tough stuff comes up.
2 comments:
Ummm, errrr, some disturbing questions from blogland there. We felt the same about Sammy...we saw that picture and KNEW he was ours. We looked at medical only long enough to see he's a boy (was wearing green and purple in the photo and his name is gender neutral) but didn't even bother to look at the rest of it. He could have had 1 kidney, 3 nipples and 15 toes...we wouldn't have cared. If he DID have a serious medical condition, would we have been prepared? Not totally. But is anyone ever prepared for an illness? Nope.
None of it matters. Kiya is your child. Period. And you'll do whatever she needs. And you're doing it now by loving and caring for and providing intellectual stimulation...blah blah blah.
She is perfection and will continue to be.
And she'll look awful cute in the wedding dress I'm already dreaming up in my head when Sam & Kiya take their vows!!
Cathy, your comments are excellent. "IF IF IF" is never an option to consider. I could read your disgust/shock at the 'health issue' form you had to check off for what you didn't want in a child. Oh my. What, what, what is this allowed to be???
Kiya is loved, is loving, is a child full of hope and nourished with hope of a full life. A full life might just include Hep C, but it is full, nonetheless. And I love your approach.
The energy wasted on addressing every "IF" in Kiya's life is energy that could be used for BETTER. And you express that well!
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