Dr. Phil today

Okay--I admit it I watch Dr. Phil. Today I was watching Dr. Phil and I got sooooo MAD! He had couples on that were having troubles with their children. One couple was struggling with a child that has Down's Syndrome and Autism. One was a young mom with 4 kids who felt lost and that she had no life. I could understand a little why these couples were frustrated. Then there was the woman who made me so mad.

She and her husband had 2 adopted daughters from Eastern Europe. They adopted their first daughter at the age of 2 and she was now 11 and totally amazing in their eyes. Since she was such a great kid, they decided to adopt a second child from the same country. This time they adopted a 4 year old girl who is now 10. They knew before they accepted the referral that the child had some physical disabilites and some possible developmental delays and they accepted the referral. Dad loves this girl and sees through her issues. Here it comes...Mom wants to send her back. Yes, those were her exact words. I just about fell off the couch. I couldn't believe it.

She felt that with physical disability and the undiagnosed attachment disorder that it was near impossible to love this child like she would love her daughter. She said she didn't even feel like this girl was her daughter but merely a child that they took care of. WOW--as someone who so desperately tried to have a family, had a failed domestic adoption and is now waiting to adopt internationally, I was so mad. How ungrateful is this woman. She wanted to adopt this girl, and now this girl wants nothing more than to be loved and Mom wants to send her back.

Adoption like giving birth makes you a parent. It is a life long committment and you can't just run away when it gets tough. I was shocked and appalled and really sad for this girl. To Dr. Phil's credit he told these woman she needed to re-evaluate her position in regards to her daughter and learn how to handle the challenges of life.

Sorry to go on and on but adoption means a lot to me and my family. Sure there are risks with international adoption or any adoption really or even in giving birth. You can't always predict what will happen and you sure as heck can't pack it in when things get a little challenging. Being a mom means the world to me through thick and thin, through good and bad and no matter what I would NEVER want to send my child back. I hope this woman really looks back at this episode and regrets the things she said and I hope and pray that her daughters will never hear or see this episode.