I don't like stupid people

I read this article today and got VERY angry. I tried to post a comment but as of yet it hasn't gone through. Here is a link to the article and below that a few select paragraphs that really upset me.

http://www.latimes.com/news/opinion/la-oe-blankenhorn19-2008sep19,0,2093869.story

"Marriage as a human institution is constantly evolving, and many of its features vary across groups and cultures. But there is one constant. In all societies, marriage shapes the rights and obligations of parenthood. Among us humans, the scholars report, marriage is not primarily a license to have sex. Nor is it primarily a license to receive benefits or social recognition. It is primarily a license to have children.

In this sense, marriage is a gift that society bestows on its next generation. Marriage (and only marriage) unites the three core dimensions of parenthood -- biological, social and legal -- into one pro-child form: the married couple. Marriage says to a child: The man and the woman whose sexual union made you will also be there to love and raise you. Marriage says to society as a whole: For every child born, there is a recognized mother and a father, accountable to the child and to each other.

All our scholarly instruments seem to agree: For healthy development, what a child needs more than anything else is the mother and father who together made the child, who love the child and love each other."

I hate that I published these words here but it made me so mad. I need to vent. The author is trying to argue against same sex marriage but rather than discussing that issue he goes WAY over board and insults all adoptive parent, single parent, and gay couples raising children.

In his view only biological parents can raise healthy, well adjusted children. So if you didn't "make" the child you can't possibly be a good parent, right??? WRONG!!!

I know a gay couple that has adopted children that were born to a Mom who was addicted to drugs. These kids would have been on the street or in the foster care system unless they had been adopted by this couple. They now have two parents that love them and provide for them. They are afforded opportunities that they never would have had had they stay with the biological mother and father. So which is better for the children??

Admittedly, I am super sensitive to this issue since my children will not be born to me. I know though that I will give my children everything I have. I will love them , cherish them and support them to the best of my ability. I don't think we will be bad parents or have unhealthy children just because we didn't give birth to them.

There is more to parenting than mere biology. Will raising adopted children come with issues? Sure and I am preparing myself for those. Would I potentially have issues in raising a biological child? Yup. So I don't really understand the point he is trying to make.

Isn't is better for a child to be loved by one awesome parent, two parents whether biological or not or a loving gay couple then bounced around in the foster care system? I sure think so. Marriage does not a good parent make. Love goes along way and I hope my child will always know that I love them even though they were born in my heart and not in my tummy.